Archive for the ‘Thoughts’ Category

Handprints on Our Hearts

Wednesday, May 31st, 2017

Last night, a memorial service. Deeply touching.

What struck me was this … the gifts we share, one to another.

We closed the service with a simple exercise.  Each person sharing “I am grateful that Jen brought me/ gave me/ taught me …”

Simple.  And every answer stunningly beautiful. Every answer an opening, a window into a cherished relationship. Softball to music to Atlantic City.  None repeated.

How that works I don’t know.  How we can come to mean so much to each other in such unique ways I can’t fully hold.  But while I don’t know how it works, I do know that it works.

And maybe that it part of the light we find in the darkness when those we love pass.

For Churches: It is not what you believe so much as what you love

Friday, April 21st, 2017

Brian McLaren nailed it…

For churches: it is not what you believe so much as what you love.

Churches tend to start with a list of beliefs.  From that comes the idea that our role is to share those beliefs.  Connected, our job – to hold tightly to our beliefs as overtly distinctive in all ways, and like it or not, superior to the beliefs held by others.

While beliefs are important – clearly important, critically important – beliefs are not the end game. To think of them as such is to confuse the ‘boat with the distant shore.’

What matters in the end is what we love.  Imagine starting there.  Beginning in a sense at the end. A statement not of beliefs but a statement of what we, as a church, love.

For NewChurch LIVE, I would humbly offer what I most witness is two loves.  Connection. Service.

What is it for your church?

Important answers. As those loves wind together, we find joy…

We are not made happy by the true things believe from our faith, but from goodness that comes from faith. (Secrets of Heaven, 4984)


The Issue is Imagination

Thursday, April 13th, 2017

The issue is imagination.

The issue is moving beyond cherished and long serving ways of doing things, and finding in the process, newness. A newness connected to the old and at the same time reaching for the new.

That remains the challenges for many institutions.  And for churches seeking to serve in new ways.

What we need to ask, continually, is how are we keeping score and how are we telling our story.

The story is good.  Beautiful. And matters.

Matters so much in fact that we need to remain open and imaginative about how we tell it.

Neither do people pour new wine into old wineskins. If they do, the skins will burst; the wine will run out and the wineskins will be ruined. No, they pour new wine into new wineskins, and both are preserved. (Matt. 9:17)



The Challenge to Live as a Christian

Friday, April 7th, 2017

The challenge to live as a Christian is not the challenge of converting others. It is not the challenge of living a morally impeccable life.  Or perfect children. Or the perfect marriage. Or growing the perfect church.

The challenge remains …. to see and act into the world differently.  Quietly.  Humbly. “Dwelling in littleness.”  With courage.

To love our friends and our enemies.  To pray for both.

To turn the other cheek.  Not in subjugation but to honor the stubborn, timeless demands of agapé love that keep us face-to-face, toe-to-toe with the other.

To go the extra mile regardless of who asks.  Sharing the load regardless of person.

To take the stands that matter.

Important we continually return to those words.  These concepts.  This way of living.  This challenge.



Three Shifts That Are Changing Christianity

Friday, March 31st, 2017

Brian McLaren, in his most recent book “The Great Spiritual Migration”, noted three profound changes…

  1. Spiritually, growing numbers of Christians are moving away from defining themselves by lists of beliefs and toward a way of life defined by love
  2. Theologically, believers are increasingly rejecting the image of God as a violent Supreme Being and embracing the image of God as the renewing Spirit at work in our world for the common good
  3. Missionally, the faithful are identifying less with organized religion and more with organizing religion—spiritual activists dedicated to healing the planet, building peace, overcoming poverty and injustice, and collaborating with other faiths to ensure a better future for all of us.
Profound insights, insights that closely mirror New Church theology.  It echoes the Swedenborgian concept that Christianity must be a life-style faith lived out in loving relationship to others.  That God is all loving, period.  And that we must constantly focus on useful service versus trapping ourselves in the purely intellectual pursuits so much of church mires itself in.

What is the new invitation in this?

Wednesday, March 29th, 2017

This era is a challenging one.  For many the God question is dead or dying.   For many others, the God question remains squeezed to the side of more appealing options, overstuffed schedules and frenetic lives.

The God question. The God question, for me, in 2017, no longer centers on “belief.”  The question now rests on action, on lifestyle, on peace, on sacred commitments – outside of my immediate desires – sacred commitments to join together with others, connecting in fellowship and addressing the suffering of the world in whatever small, humble ways we can.

So what is the new invitation in this?

Possibly the new invitation in this – to rediscover the rhythm of our souls, aligned with God.  To see in Christ a model of how maybe a new form of following arises.  A stewardship of a new spiritual creation and a stewardship of a new physical creation … soul meets God, meets planet, meets body, meets others, meets life.

Sacrifice part of it all.  Sacrifice … “to make sacred.”

Sacrifice on the path to joy!



Kensington in the Snow

Saturday, March 11th, 2017

Fr. Gregory Boyle offered a wonderful short story.

In his cramped LA office, rushing to prepare for a noon baptism, a heroin addict stumbled in asking to meet.  As  Mother Theresa would say, ‘God in God’s most distressing disguises.’

Initially annoyed, initially rushing towards the logical “I don’t have time for this”, Fr. Boyle settled, opened his heart to hear her, and offered this line about that experience.

“I had almost forgotten.  People are not interruptions.”

It is easy to forget people.

We live in world readily consumed with algorithms, busyness masquerading as effectiveness, thinness as connection.  Ministry is no different.  The pressing demands of running a church easily trump the more important work of being the church.  In other words, it is easy to forget and far easier to forget those broken. Easier to forget those who are already largely forgotten.

That is why Mary is one of my heroes.  She reminds me every few weeks, “What date works to got to Kensington?”, a place where we pass out lunches and visit with the homeless and addicted.

Even in winter.  Even in snow.

People are not interruptions.



So it is True?

Thursday, March 9th, 2017

We live in an age where the concept of “truth” is increasingly questioned in ways unimaginable a few decades go.  We truly are entering/ have entered a “post truth” era.

There are costs when all perspectives, however far fetched, are held as legitimate simply because someone holds them.  When all sources of news, of information become somehow equally valid.  When revelation, as it were, becomes a completely privatized, relativized affair.

For me, I enjoy my opinions frankly and I know enough to know I am often wrong, and therefore desperately need sources of truth outside of those cherished opinions.

For some things there are obviously many sides, many perspectives, many competing claims of truth as we see with the beautiful multitude of faith perspectives in the world.  For other arenas, like global warming, there are no legitimate counter facts.  Global warming is a fact, a truth.  How we handle it?  That is where a multitude of informed opinions can be brought to bear.

A cleaner division between truth and opinion remains worthy of deep human consideration.

Humility before the truth remains crucial to the human soul.


Interviewing the Loyal Soldier Within

Thursday, February 16th, 2017

We all host a loyal soldier.  A part of us that with great courage and fortitude has held on and defended cherished notions of meaning and belonging.  The “good girl”, the “good boy.”

And a time comes where that loyal soldier is threatened.  Where the cherished notions of meaning and belonging fall into question.

Those are hard times.  Incredibly hard times.  Where what worked no longer does.

A loyal spouse faces a wrenching divorce. A loyal employee laid off. A loyal church member seeing their church crumble.  A loyal parent facing the rejection of a grown child. The list goes on.

Maybe ask of that loyal soldier…

  1. Where did you come from?
  2. What’s your role in my life?
  3. What do you hope for?
  4. What are you most proud of?
  5. How did you give my life purpose?
Our loyal soldier is one of many trusted sources we hold inside. A felt presence. Not to be dismissed or fought.  To be embraced for its gifts.

And seen in this context – as a beautiful constant in one of God’s great movements in our lives…

From self control to self surrender 



Living in the Light

Wednesday, February 15th, 2017

This is a “stretched” time. A time that feels uneasy, disjointed.  And a time with a choice.

Challenging.  How do we hold ourselves in a time when so much is up in the air? When the pace of change calls forward and the call for restraint calls back?

When the politics of the nation create a ceaseless drumbeat of worry and, miraculously, at the same in the public square, one easily finds shoots of hope.

So a choice here and that choice is to live in the light.

Light is not detached.  Not blind.  Light helps us see.  Illuminates.  Shows twisted facts and simple deceit for what they are.

And most importantly, somehow light carries hope.

Carries the promise of daybreak.  Of better times.  Clean. Clear.

Filled with love.  Able to navigate the dark.

We can walk through the darkest night with the radiant conviction that all things work together for the good.

Rev. Martin Luther King

I was thinking yesterday about how much the mistaken work of church is applied towards judgement.  Applied to judging other and their behavior believing ‘thus is where holiness lies.’  But I don’t believe that any more.  My judgments of others leave my heart untouched.  Leave my heart untransformed.  Relationship, connection to those who suffer, who struggle – that is what changes the heart. Our opinions, righteously held, will never change us.  Lives lived together, in light, do.

That does not eliminate the hard conversation or the called-for stand.  It just says this … as best we can, lets stay in the light.

You want to see the light?  Here you go.  19 people talking. Listening.  Not broadcasting.  Beautiful!  19 people living in the light.